date

i sat at a nearby table, legs crossed, as i waited for him to arrive. nervousness and eagerness danced around in my head. any second now he would appear from behind the counter and start in my direction. i wonder if he was as anxious as i was to be on a blind date.
i perked up as i heard my name and immediately rose from my seat. his handshake was not too firm nor too flimsy-just right. although a little shorter than i am, i could tell within that first instant of holding his gaze that he was charming. and warm. and adorable.
he made me feel completely at ease, the words rolling off my tongue-smooth like butter. he complimented me on how organized i was and was impressed by my past achievements. we talked about what a wonderful place chapel hill is to live in. we learned that we both share a background in psychology, and also a preoccupation with making plans and checklists. he learned that i was a morning person and willing to get up at 5:30 a.m. if necessary. i asked him many questions about his job, like how he went about training new hires and expanding the business.
and then i asked him how many blind dates he had been on in the past few days...he said about four, but the way in which he downplayed them suggested to me that he wasn't all that interested in what they had to offer. so i took a reassuring breadth and silently prayed that i would be the one: the lucky one.
then we shook hands a second time and that's when i left my job interview.
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they say that a job interview is like a first date (or vice versa)...that emotional and physical anticipation, the fear of being scrutinized, and the natural desire to want to measure up and impress the other person (even if you aren't a good match to begin with). sorry, but i felt i had to trick you in order to get this point across. besides the fact that my interviewer was actually a women and not a man (minor detail), everything i recounted from my "date" is true. i really like this girl, and the exciting part is, i think she likes me too! needless to say, i would really like to go on a second date. unfortunately, that decision is entirely up to her. so in the same way that i wouldn't want to jinx a potential relationship with a guy i was just getting to know, i am going to stop talking about this one. now.

more gushy details to come (i hope)!

i'll leave you with some humorous comparisons that i dug up from an article by janet white (jobdig.com)...keep in mind that the first question is something an employer would likely ask during an interview while the second question is it's equivalent in a date setting (a date that would surely end on a bad note).

• tell me about a time when you failed. why did you break off your last relationship?
• on the scale of one to ten, how would you rate yourself as an employee? on the scale of one to ten, how would you rate yourself as a lover?
• why should we hire you? why should i date you?
• tell me about that gap in your resume. tell me why you’ve been single for so long.
• how much did you earn in your last position? how much money do you have?